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Anger the tip of the Iceberg

What Jamie Taught Me About Anger.

   Jamie (not his real name) was my first ever client during my training as a child creative arts counsellor.
   He was referred because of his behaviour. He was out of class more than he was in and struggling. Although his school had a nurture unit they thought he could do with some extra support. He was just about to turn seven and due to go to junior school.
   In our first session I asked him why he thought he was being sent to see me “because I have anger issues” he said. I asked him what that meant and he shrugged. We were to spend a very interesting five months together!
   Creative therapy is a great way to work with anger because it enables exploration without direct confrontation. Even if cut of from experience connection to feeling can be made through drawing, visualization and bodywork.
   Most of my work with Jamie happened via storytelling and role play. It was through his creation of a character he named the ball of energy that he managed to express his innermost feelings. The ball of energy in his story was drowning and no one was coming to help. There it was, his life experience laid bare through metaphor. What lay underneath the anger was a great deal of hurt and pain and devastating sadness and despair.
   I played my part as he told his story even though I was unsure where it was leading and my doubts as to whether I should. I had to trust the process and honour the faith he had in me to hold and contain these huge feelings.
   We revisited this story a couple of times. I knew it was important, I wanted him to know that, I wanted to make sure I got it right. At this stage the story had no ending. It didn’t feel right to offer up one. It would have been wrong to try and neatly tie it up, make it better, it didn’t fit his experience.
   As we came towards the end of our time together we were able to come up with an ending together. I went home and wrote it up making it into a book and in our last session I gave his story back to him.
   We were both much changed by our time together. I truly believe we wouldn’t have got there without the use of creative therapy. It not only helped him connect with his feelings it gave him a means to express them and enabled me to support him without offering false hopes.
   Our early work on connecting anger with the body helped him to gain greater awareness of his inbuilt warning signs and we practiced ways to counteract these signals, to help him self sooth and self regulate. Once we had calmed the loudness of the angry voice we were able to hear the quieter cry of sadness. Through staying with the sadness it grew into a wail before finding its ultimate release.
   I have worked with many children since Jamie who were presented as having “anger issues”. All have had their story to tell through one creative medium or another. As I help facilitate expression in this way I always feel immensely privileged and humbled by their bravery.
   Anger is the label but it’s only the beginning of the story. For all those I have helped since, thank you Jamie for teaching me that.

Chocolate Gong

“I slept fantastic and felt really positive the next day.” Sharon

Ben Saxon has been hosting popular gong baths in Essex and London for the last 5 years.
This is one session that you can really indulge in.

Summer is on it’s last legs as we rapidly move into the twilight weeks of August. If the pressure of getting the kids ready for school, or preparing for college/university proves to be a bit too much, take your relaxation into your own hands with Chocolate Gong, hosted by our very own Ben Saxon.

Chocolate Gong is a modern interpretation of an ancient method of meditation. The gong has been used in spiritual ceremony as far back as the Bronze age. The cosmic sound which the gong creates draws the mind away from the folly of modern life and removes one from their day-to-day thoughts. This is combined with the chocolate aspect, high-quality raw chocolate is used, which contains no dairy, making it accessible to anyone. The use of chocolate in a ceremonial capacity is a tradition amongst South American shamans.

You will be ‘bathed’ in the healing vibrations of the gong, a healing instrument that has gained popularity for its ability to take you to a deep relaxed space of both body and mind along with its ability to put the body into a natural state of balance.

At the start of this session there will be a short seated yoga warm-up to release surface level tension in the body.  Your healing will also be enhanced by a raw chocolate drink prepared to a traditional South American recipe (this drink will produce a naturally elevated feeling, lifting your energy and allowing you to relax)

You will need…
Loose clothing comfortable enough to lie down in, feel free to bring pillows and blankets for extra comfort as well as a water bottle to hydrate fully after.

Yoga mats will be supplied.



Chocolate Gong usually takes place on the first Thursday of every month however, Christmas/New Year dates are as follows:

  • December 14th
  • January 11th

**Sessions are available from £20 each, book all four and pay only £60**

The chocolate drink is optional and ingredients can be given on request.



Metal and Autumn: a blog by Steve Coster

Always seem to be catching colds?  Your Metal may be out of balance!


Don’t you love the autumn?  It’s that time of year where once again nature is in transition; it is preparing for the winter, taking stock before the time of renewal in the spring.  As the days shorten and the leaves turn a golden brown and fall to the ground, it’s also a time that we should be retreating; a time to gather round the fire with our loved ones (or the central heating for most of us now!) taking stock of all that we have done and achieved throughout the year, but preparing for the long cold nights of winter and making plans for next year.

About this time of year I see a lot of people who have a cold, and they often tell me that the changing of the seasons affects their health.  So why might this be?  In Chinese Medicine we associate the Metal element with the autumn, and, on a physical level, the lungs and colon.  In our human lifetime, Metal is the time of letting go, a time of tranquility, peace and wisdom.  In the autumn of one’s life it is a time of withdrawing from outside involvement and looking for meaning within.  We must ‘let go’ to face the limits of life.


 Yin organ: Lungs

Yang organ: Colon

Colour: White

Season: Autumn

Climate: Dryness

Flavour: Pungent


So what happens if we don’t (or can’t) let go? Well, if we don’t let go of the summer and continue to wear less, stay up late and eat summer foods, we are more susceptible to viruses and the cold.  Or, put another way, if we are not in tune with the changing of the seasons (or nature), our Qi may be weakened and therefore our defences are down.

Mistiming the transition of the seasons is something we are all prone to, however, and that’s why we all get colds every now and then.  But some of us seem to get more colds and worse colds than everyone else.  If this is you, it might be because your Metal element is out of balance.

And this is where Acupuncture can help you.  When our elements are out of balance, we are ill.  This might mean you are more susceptible to weather changes, or it might mean things are just not right.  In the case of a Metal imbalance, you may have a dry cough and a sore throat (Lungs) or you could be constipated (Colon).  In either case, the ‘letting go’ function is impaired.

Acupuncture is able to stimulate the free flow of the body’s energy and therefore its natural healing response.

If you would like to know more about Acupuncture and how it can help you, please call me on 07909 521847 or at the Therapy Life Centre on 01702 433959.

Steve Coster










So what happens if we don’t (or can’t) let go? Well, if we don’t let go of the summer and continue to wear less, stay up late and eat summer foods, we are more susceptible to viruses and the cold.  Or, put another way, if we are not in tune with the changing of the seasons (or nature), our Qi may be weakened and therefore our defenses are down.


Mistiming the transition of the seasons is something we are all prone to, however, and that’s why we all get colds every now and then.  But some of us


Mystic Holistic Yoga Workshop with Paula Lotus Rose


Sunday 29th October 2017    3.30-6pm    £25

Mystic asana exploration, discover Mudra & Mantra magic & nourish your spirit with the power of Yoga Nidra. Gain insight with the primordial power of the cosmos; as we move into meditation, let’s release, let go and shift our thoughts to inner restoration, holistic wellness and preparation for our 3rd eye awakening.

Enter a place of stillness…this is the challenge of Winter initiated by Samhain, simply being where you are, not moving forwards or backwards, simply being utterly present. It here we listen to the voices in the crackling fire, rain & wind, entering Winter dark season of the year is for dreaming & remembering.

Honouring ourselves by entering that still place within, connecting with universal energies  through our Yoga practice.  Asana, pranayama, mudra & mantra lead us into Yoga Nidra to nurture new dreams & sow seeds in the dark, nourishing our spirit; & through this period of rest we find rejuvenation & renewal.

EVERYONE Welcome – workshop suitable for all levels & abilities.

Please wear comfortable layers, bring own Yoga mat if preferred although mats are provided

Inform Paula of any health issues & or injuries prior to workshop via email

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Bookings & Payment via Paula 07958 682172

Paula Lotus Rose

Paula has been living, practising & studying spirituality, natural beauty therapy & holistic healing therapies; here in the U.K. & on her international travels & Yoga; including Yoga therapy, Meditation & Ayurveda in India whilst walking the Yogini path & living a holistic lifestyle.   Drawn to reside in the South East coastline, yearning for a high vibrational Earth connection, since living a beach life in India, has brought her to Leigh-on-Sea Essex.  Paula’s workshops are also inspired by another lifelong fascination, Astrology & also  the Seasonal & Moon cycles, due to their energetic influences.. This has encouraged self enquiry, a life-long personal development & extensive training courses leading to an all encompassing daily yoga & meditation practice. Paula thus discovered the transformative effects of Yoga on her wellbeing & amalgamated her knowledge to teach classes workshops & training courses alongside a Holistic therapy practice. Her pleasure & honour is to share these universal gifts & help support others to be the best they can be on their own journey.



Menopause and You by Lorraine Whitby

Menopause and You by Lorraine Whitby

Menopause itself does not have to be problematic, or symptomatic, but many of my clients ask for help and support at this time:

  • Hot flushes, Night Sweats
  • Tiredness
  • Irritable, mood swings, anxiety
  • Memory loss, confusion
  • Low libido, discomfort during sex
  • Skin dryness or thinning, blemishes
  • Heavy or irregular periods
  • Difficulty sleeping
  • Increased PMS, Breast tenderness
  • Urine incontinence
  • Feelings of overwhelm, not coping
  • Weight gain, difficulty losing weight

Peri-menopausal and Menopausal Symptoms – that are caused by the increasing imbalance between oestrogen, progesterone and testosterone – tend to be worse if this quite normal transitional phase of a woman’s hormone cycle comes at a time when a woman is run down, deplete, nutritionally deficient, unwell or stressed. So for example, if you have been on anti-depressants long term as you come into menopause, or have been dealing with any long term stress that remains unresolved, it is likely that your body and mind will find it harder, and will need more support at this time. It could even be something as seemingly unrelated as suffering whiplash, or having a chronic dental infection preceding peri-menopause that leaves your body less resilient and more susceptible to menopausal symptoms.

Again, if nutrition has been unbalanced, due to a busy life, especially if you have become deplete in minerals and healthy oils, there will not be the resources needed to cope easily at this time. Herbs can be very nourishing and supportive at this time – such as sage, black cohosh, wild yam –  as the nutrients in certain herbs at a molecular level mimic our female hormones, triggering balance, which is why they are called phytoestrogens.

The menopause can highlight the need to take care of yourself, and Lorraine offers many approaches that identify what you may need to support you at this time. For example, a Cell Well Being hair scan – using 3 strands of hair – will provide an epigenetic hair report that will indicate what foods and supplements you need for 90 days, to function at optimum.

Magnesium is essential at this time – the correct type and doses supports deeper sleep, stress management, and PMS. A lesser known but excellent benefit is that it strengthens the bladder…

Throughout Menopause, balance is needed to be achieved in our mind, body and energy, so the effective natural approaches that Lorraine offers such as Homeopathy, Kinesiology, sound nutritional approaches including hair mineral analysis or Cell Wellbeing hair scan, Bio-resonance, and hypnotherapy can support you and alleviate your symptoms.

Lorraine Whitby LCPH Homeopath and Integrative Complementary Therapist


Self Defence

Self Defence

Are your children off on their own? Travelling, going Uni or just out with friends? Would you like for them to know how to protect themselves?

There is nothing better than having the peace of mind that you and your loved ones are safe!

But do you actually know how to protect yourself or anyone else in a bad situation? You may think you’re fine because you’re physically fit or because you don’t think it would ever happen to you.

But the amount of reassurance that comes with knowing that you’re truly prepared is an unexplainable boost of confidence!

The benefits of self-defence

There are so many positives other than the obvious when learning self-defence! Learning self-defence can help boost your confidence, it contributes to building self-discipline, it can help improve your physical conditions and so much more!

Empower yourself with the knowledge that you can protect yourself and others! 

Gary Hogben has over 35 years of experience in Martial Arts & self-defence; you will be taught the necessary manoeuvres and will learn about awareness, avoidance & the laws of reasonable force!

This course will teach you the simple but effective way to be protected against stronger, bigger aggressors while also including defence against knife violence!

(As this course will include lethal techniques attendees will need to be over 18)

It doesn’t matter if you’re male or female, everyone can benefit from knowing how to protect themselves, big or small you can learn to stay safe!

For £25 per person, and if you are a past attendee it is only £18

Booking is essential so call us on 01702 433959


The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction

Take the first steps towards bettering yourself by understanding and working with the Law of Attraction.

Imagine making tangible and measurable changes to your life and circumstances; imagine starting to truly believe in yourself and your infinite possibilities. Imagine believing you get and deserve everything you want out of your life.

Now imagine getting all of this and much more from your life.

Have YOU heard of The Secret of The Law of Attraction?

Are YOU interested and curious to know what they are?

The Law of Attraction is said to be the most powerful law in the universe; we all use it every moment of every day whether good or bad. By simply applying the Law of Attraction correctly and consciously; rectifying any pre-programmed obstacles that are stopping you from succeeding, your life will begin to resemble the life you dream of.

Mystery is another name for ignorance; all things are mysterious when they are not fully understood, but once we understand, it no longer appears mysterious.

Come and de-mystify the Law of Attraction and discover your potential; this is your incomparable opportunity to learn how to take real, practical and invaluable steps to change your life for the better.


Getting to Know Maria Smith

Getting to Know Maria Smith

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change”

Maria Louise has just joined the Therapy Life Centre team, and with her she brings over a decade of experience and education in a number of different areas. By profession, she is a reflexologist and a practitioner of Reiki healing. She also works with Indian and Swedish head massage, as well as having counselling qualifications.

Reflexology is the ancient art of massaging and manipulating the feet, which opens up meridian lines. It, like many of the treatments available at the therapy life centre, dates back to ancient China, roughly 4,000 BC. Reflexology is also referenced in ancient Egyptian hieroglyphics. In Maria’s own words, Reflexology “allows the body to get into a state of deep relaxation, where healing can take place.

Maria’s path truly begins at the age of 19. When after a trip to Mexico, which resulted in an infection, she suffered from bouts of Chronic Fatigue. At the time she was nursing within the NHS, but felt that she couldn’t help people within the confines of the National Healthcare Service. However, her calling would soon come, as she explored the benefits of Reiki healing during this difficult time. Her treatment was so life-changing that she immediately sought out Reiki training, and now is preparing to undergo her masters in the subject, which will allow her to teach Reiki, and pass the traditions along. She now considers her experiences with Chronic Fatigue as a learning experience, claiming that it gave her a greater appreciation for health.

On top of her initial nursing training, Maria also holds Diploma’s in Massage and Reflexology. Her studies in counselling allows greater freedom in her work, and provides a verbal alternative to physical treatment. Her preferred method of massage is the Indian Head Massage, a practise which originated in Indian barber shops. She particularly enjoys this method as it gives her patients more autonomy during the treatment, the length of the treatment and the clients clothing are completely optional.

Like many of the Therapists within her field, Maria is capable of moving in between multiple treatments effortlessly. This stems from a lifelong appreciation for spirituality and the methods other cultures use to treat every day ailments. This is alongside a fascination with western new-age fields of thought. Namely the Law of Attraction, with Abraham Hicks a personal influence on Maria. Although she identifies as a spiritualist, her appreciation of Buddhist values has led her to numerous temples, though she see’s her relationship with Buddhism as more a guide to living a full and happy life, as opposed to an answer for existential questions.

Her day-to-day routine revolves around the bettering of ones’ self and ones’ state of mind. “Wellbeing”, she said, “should be an inherent part of life”. And this mentality manifests itself in every day decisions Maria makes. Every morning begins with meditation, and she makes a point of being ‘in the now’. Her day includes a healthy balance of diet, hydration, exercise and movement. And for fun she enjoys dance, maintaining an active social life, exercising and meditating.

Maria’s values, compassion and ethos align perfectly with that of the Therapy Life Centre and all that it hopes to accomplish. And her clearly defined outlook on what makes a happy life ensures that she has a long and productive future here at TLC.

You can read more about Reflexology here


Sleep Solutions Talk with Lorraine Whitby

Sleep Solutions Talk with Lorraine Whitby

Sleep Solutions Talk with Lorraine Whitby LCPH

Thursday 30th November 2017 19.00-21.00pm.

Therapy Life Centre.

This two hour talk with Lorraine Whitby, a Homeopath and Integrative Therapist of nearly
thirty years, will look at many factors around sleep problems, and point you in the right
direction in order to identify the causes of your own imbalances, and start putting a Better
Sleep Protocol together.

Sleep when healthy and refreshing is restorative and invigorating.
Lack of sleep or disturbed sleep can literally drive us crazy when it continues without
solutions. Just a night or two of poor sleep will leave us feeling under par, exacerbating
symptoms you are already suffering from, causing overwhelm, irritability and feeling
cranky. We simply cannot heal if we are sleeping poorly.

Come along and see how you can

sleep better and improve your life! Children suffer from insomnia too, in increasing severity
and numbers, with pressure of school, after school clubs, homework, and just a life with too much crammed in and not enough time to unwind..

There are solutions!

But before solutions first we need to identify what the root causes are of our own specific
sleep issue are: this could be

  • nutritional imbalances,
  • excess stimulants such as alcohol or caffeine,
  • unresolved stress,
  • back, neck or joint pain leading to discomfort,
  • bladder weakness disturbing sleep,
  • breathing issues such as sleep apnea or asthma,
  • a chronic cough,
  • a past unresolved trauma,
  • cranial-sacral issues,
  • depression,
  • anxiety,
  • excessive worry
  •  inability to switch our brains off from a busy day at work,
  • digestive complaints causing discomfort, pain and trips to the bathroom,
  • shift work or going to bed habitually too late,
  • too much light in the bedroom,
  • EMF,
  • night sweats,
  • and many more..

You will receive a questionnaire during the talk to help identify the root cause of your
sleep disturbance. This can be the first step in improving the quality of your sleep.
Every sleep problem will need an individual solutions, sometimes very simple, other cases are equally solvable, but will need a multi pronged attack!

This talk will allow you to start identifying the causes of you and your children’s sleep
issues, and be able to start correcting the problem with natural solutions for better sleep.
You will also receive a goody bag as the first step on your journey to Better Sleep 
Lorraine offers many therapeutic modalities and treatments when a quick solution for
better sleep just isn’t enough: Homeopathy, a review of diet and nutrition, the use of
herbs, Kinesiology, Bio resonance, Hair Mineral Analysis, Cell Wellbeing Epigenetic Report.


Your Guide to Natural Weight Loss

Your Guide to Natural Weight Loss

Lorraine’s Weight Loss talk will take place on September 21st at 7pm. 

My mission as a homeopath and integrative therapist is to make the journey to a slimmer, healthier body as easy and effective as possible for whoever wants to lose weight. People often say to me – ‘I really want to lose weight, but don’t tell me I can’t have my glass of wine when the children are in bed’, or ‘I am not giving up my chocolate, I need it’. At this point, the person does not always understand that the cravings are a symptom of their current stress. There are easy solutions to stuck weight issues. It is not necessary to ask a client to give up something they feel attached to; instead I add things to their diet and lifestyle that bring balance to their nutritional status, resulting in cravings reducing.

One of my clients is a pastry chef, so you can imagine she loves sugar, her creations are made from sugar, and she tastes sugar all day long. When I explained that her excessive sugar intake was contributing to her disturbed sleep, weight problems, and the energy lag she suffered every afternoon, along with irritability and mood swings, she decided she wanted to change her diet and see what had happened, but was concerned as she had never been sugar-free. I added liquorice root capsules to her diet (which balance blood sugar), as well as chromium, and asked her to increase her intake of protein – fish, meat, eggs, nuts, seeds. So instead of having jam on toast or croissants for breakfast, she chose to have scrambled eggs, or a protein smoothie. I specifically asked her not to reduce sugar, just to let her body re-adjust. I also asked her to increase her intake of pure water. A year later, she has dropped 20
pounds, started running, sleeps better and has gained two promotions at work from being more confident and stable. Her PMT is virtually non-existent now. Interestingly she is now a sugar-free advocate, and helps her children make better choices every day.

Cravings are just the body asking for something it doesn’t have, but needs, but the cravings aren’t always identified as that; the cause of the craving just needs to be interpreted – salt can mean the adrenals are exhausted, chocolate often indicates magnesium levels are low, caffeine products mean we are running on empty, burnt out, and alcohol can be masking stress, or is used to decompress or wind down after a too hectic day. Craving bread or marmite could
indicate B vitamin deficiencies.

Did you know that there are #10 specific types of hunger? Each one is caused by something specific, and needs a specific strategy to stop the craving. Understanding which hungers you are prone to, can help you plan to lose weight and manage the cravings more successfully, so breaking the vicious cycle of craving, cheating, self-criticism, comfort eating etc..
For example, Hunger #3 is Lack of Variety. It is very easy to fall into the habit of buying the
same foods in the supermarket trolley each week. One of the best diets designed is the rotation diet, where foods are eaten, and then avoided for four days. This reduces the build up of food intolerance; we can become intolerant to foods that we eat too often; I once treated a computer programmer, who worked and lived alone, from home, putting in very long hours. He was suffering from low energy, was overweight and had bad skin. Food intolerance testing
showed an intolerance to chicken, tomatoes, onions, garlic, mushrooms and pasta. He told me he used to make a one pot dish of those exact foods every Sunday to last him all week. His body got very bored of the same combination. Moving on, his health, energy and weight improved by introducing some variety.
It is good practice to buy a different brand of any regularly eaten food, such as olive oil, tinned food, nut butters etc, so ring the changes and keep your body happy! This Lack of Variety Hunger is caused by eating too limited a range of foods, leaving the body lacking essential nutrients. Imagine that the cravings you experience – for chocolate, for
example, are really the body needing the magnesium contained in chocolate. The craving for salty peanuts or potato crisps could indicate the body self medicating to support the adrenal glands (exhaustion, stress, chronic adaptive stress, inability to recover, tired all the time) that always need (good) salt when depleted. N.B sea salt, Himalayan salt would be classed as good salt. Table salt containing aluminium anti -caking agents would be classed as unhealthy.

Did you know that to lose body fat, you need to eat fat? The trick is to understand the difference between good and bad fats and oils. Heated, saturated fats such as crisps, cookies, cakes, biscuits, and chips, are bad for our health, and create toxins in the body, trigger cravings whilst increasing cholesterol and encouraging weight gain, by affecting blood sugar and insulin levels. Good oils such as raw olive oil, walnut oil, flaxseed oil, coconut oil, and grass fed butter encourage weight loss by increasing our metabolism and lowering cholesterol, increase energy and health, and balancing blood sugar. Good fats also trigger ketosis – fat burning – and keep us feeling full and satisfied, for much longer so weight loss becomes easier and more effective.

Lorraine offers one to one consultations for weight loss, and also runs weekly classes, so you can learn tips and
nutritional strategies to take the quickest route to your desired target weight, and a happier, healthier body.

Lorraine Whitby LCPH Homeopath and Integrative Complementary Therapist.

T: 01206 247178 M: 07590 644778